how to talk to my husband about keeping guns safe at home?
The other day my 2 yr old daugther opened the gun case that was under the bed. I caught her and I told my husband. He just locked it and told her not to touch it. He told me he had it unlocked so that if anything happens he could get it faster. I was not aware that the case was unlocked. He also said the gun has a lock and it wasn’t loaded and that even if it was she coudn’t even pick it up, its a big gun, not sure what kind.
He’s very pro guns and believes that we have the right to defend ourselves. And I understand that, but I worry about our kids. I tried to talk to him about it but he quickly shut me down and told me his beliefs and he acussed me of being a Democrat and loving Obama. He is doing it for our protection. But I dont understand how is it ok that she was playing with it. I really dont know how to approach him about this. It bothers me.
I’m going to tell him that this is what we should do. I’m going to look at the NRA website about safety. Thanks for the link.
I am relieved to read what everyone has to say. I am going to first find out what we have and find out what we need to buy to keep them safe and I will put them away where my daugther can’t reach them. Its my responsibility too. I thought I trusted that he was responsible about the guns. Im really troubled. But I think the best thing to do is to deal with it, put the guns in a safe place,locked up. I will continue to read the answers tomorrow.
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The first thing that I learned about guns is that there;s no such thing as an unloaded gun. Many people have been killed by guns that someone said was unloaded.
I grew up with guns, all my family has married and raised kids with guns in the house and no one has been harmed but we have been very careful. The guns should always be locked up and we always stored them up where the very young kids couldn’t reach them. Usually on the top shelf of the bedroom closet. A 2 or 3 yr old isn’t going to get it up there. Once the kids hit about 4 they started learning about the guns.
Human nature is to want the things that are forbidden so hiding the guns from your kids, forbidding them to touch the guns and that, just makes them all the more appealing. If you teach them about the guns, put them in gun safety classes and teach them to shoot when they’re old enough the guns will be something they understand and respect. It’s worked in my family.
I found this NRA site with a kids gun safety program you can teach the kids in your own home.
http://www.nrahq.org/safety/eddie/infoparents.asp
that’s why i don’t marry pro-gun man!
just let it go and make sure the gun safe is out of reach of kids.
keep talking to him about it until he get the message!
LOL gun owners.
They do their own natural de-selection.
Call him a pussy…my guess is he’ll hit you, but if not he will get so mad he’ll listen
I’m sorry, but I would NOT have a gun in the house period. There are FAR TOO MANY accidents that happen w/them. Especially w/a child. Just what if there WAS one bullet he "forgot" to take out?! Ask him just HOW MUCH does he value your child’s life?! Is it really worth taking a chance even? Accidents DO happen every day. It’s just NOT worth it to me, it shouldn’t be to him either…BEG him…best to you…:)
It sounds like you already have approached him and you say he shot you down.In your case it sounds like he doesn’t value your views or safety for your daughter.He thinks safety in shooting someone who breaks in but doesn’t think safety in your daughter shooting herself or someone else.
Heres what I would do and yes he’ll get p)ssed. I would just stay at a friend or relatives house for a while and say to him when you decide to value me as your wife and partner in this relationship and not treat me like crap because I have a legitimate concern and consider my concerns then I will come home.
he really must be nieve you never know what can happen-accidents do happen!!!! i would make it a top issue to discuss this matter, especially when my 2 year old is involved.maybe bring up what happened in front of friends and see how they react–this might open his eyes to the fact-this is a more serious matter than he thinks.
I’ll be blunt: You’re husband seems to care more about politics than the safety of his own family. Yes, we have the right to bare arms but there are true sad stories of children getting to their parent’s gun and accidentally killing someone else or them self. If your husband is so worried about if anything should happen, then it should be that his little girl could have pulled out the gun and accidentally pulled the trigger. A child is more likely to injure them self with a gun than a robber or murderer breaking into your house. His accusations of you being an Obama-loving Democrat just for worrying about your daughter is ridiculous. I’m sorry but someone like your husband will hold onto his beliefs no matter what. I was married to one. Stone-headed and stubborn. At least tell him to keep the gun out of the reach of children. If he doesn’t care about that, well…what can I say? He’s a loser. No offense meant to be taken, but I was in a similar relationship and it seemed my ex’s beliefs over-ruled anything else in our family. Even our children…(just so you know, I am a Republican and I believe in our right to bare arms. But I care more about my children).
We are gun owners too. My husband is an avid hunter and enjoys shooting in general. Since your daughter is way to young to understand the danger of guns you need to come up with a game plan. If he absolutely refuses to put it up somewhere safe then do it yourself. At least it is locked now! We keep ours on the top shelf of our closet in locked cases. The bullets are kept separately someplace completely different.
Logically, what are the odds that your are going to need it for protection anyways? And what is the difference if it is under the bed unloaded, or in a different spot unloaded where a child can’t get to it?
you need to protect your child at all cost. tell him your child means
ever thing to you and either he puts locks on the triggers of the guns
that you are going to leave with the child. because if some thing was to happen god for bid you and him would suffer a great lost. and all so
could face prison time on top of that. if you have guns keep them locked un loaded and out of the reach of children and un responsible
adults.
you need to talk to him about it. don’t let him shut you down. this is the safety of your child. we have guns in our home too. but they are locked up and will stay that way. too many accidents happen every year with children and guns. don’t even give him a choice about this. this isn’t even considered nagging no matter how persistent you have to be. it should be locked at all times AND out of reach of your child. i keep a baseball bat by the bed if we need any "protection" and we didn’t have enough warning to get to a gun. but seriously… he makes gun owners everywhere look stupid.
the sec i found her with it i would have put her in the car and took her to buy a safe that i was ok with… the fight will end theres no reason your daughters life should
So who decided that your husband makes the rules and you have to go along with what he says, even if you don’t agree with him and it puts your child at risk?
He didn’t lock the gun case once, what if he decides to do that again? What happens when your child is older and can pick up the gun or your child finds out where he keeps the key to the gun case?
A friend of mine told me years ago about how a neighbor of hers had a four year old daughter and a 7 year old son. The father had several guns he kept locked up in a gun case and made it very clear to the children that guns are dangerous and they are never suppose to touch them.
The parents didn’t know it, but the son saw where the father hide the key to the gun case. To make a long and horrible story short. Early one morning the son opened the gun case and while playing with his father’s gun, shot and killed his sister.
My ex-husband had guns in our house too. I told him the same story I just told you. We had many fights about him having guns in the house when we had children. He refused to listen to me and gave me the same story. That he had a right to own guns. Not once in the 14 years we were married did he ever use those guns to go hunting or target practice. We always lived in a good neighborhood and I doubt that he would of had the guts to shoot anyone if they broke into our house.
After we divorced and my daughter was a teenager, to my horror, she told me that she always knew where her step father kept his guns, she knew he kept the bullets in the bottom drawer in the filing cabinet, and she knew where he kept the key to the filing cabinet. Thank god, she was smart enough not to ever touch them and was never curious about playing with them.
I swore, I would never marry another man who loved his guns more then his family. I’ve kept that promise.
You have to decide what is more important to you. Being married to your husband and allowing him to have guns in the house and buy his story that he’s smarter then a curious child and you have nothing to worry about. Or demand that either the guns go and he can stay or him and the guns can both go.
I made some stupid mistakes when I was young concerning my children’s best interest. If I knew back then, what I know now. I would have kicked my husband out of the house when he refused to get rid of the guns. I feel very lucky that my children were never hurt or killed, because of his love for those d*mn guns!
Okay, there are gun owners and there a stupid SOB’s that shouldn’t be allowed to either own a gun or have a child.
He keeps the gun case UNDER THE BED with a 2 year old child in the house. Seriously? I grew up with guns in the house and there was never a problem. We were taught to respect them and they were always locked up. Cripes this was in the 70’s… Honey, grow some and tell him that handguns can be in the house but they need to be up higher where the child cannot reach them.. even if he THINKS they’re empty sometimes that’s not always the case.
I also suggest you take a gun safety course if you haven’t done so already.
Remember the woman always gets custody of the child (unless she’s a completely whack job).
There should be no discussion when it comes to the safety of your child.
He would be devastated and deeply saddened if anything happened to her, ever…especially because of something like this, which can be prevented.
Find a gun safe, there are ones that allow you to get the weapon quickly, but are impossible for children to get into. This way, your child will be safe, your husband can still have his weapon in the home, and you will not have to worry about anyone being harmed.
Children are so curious. They will get into anything that they have easy access to! So please, the best way to make your family safe is to keep any weapons safe!
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Two things.
First, you need to work on your relationship with your husband. As a small thought, you may have approached him on this subject in the wrong way. You need to talk about this with him, the method that I would recommend is to ask him how you two should work at keeping your children gun safe.
Second and most important. A child of two is more than old enough to start learning about being safe around guns. Show the gun to the child and carefully explain that it is not a toy, that they should not touch the gun and if they find it laying out they should tell one of you. As the child grows, involve them in shooting, it takes all the mystery out and makes it safe.